B'day doings....

I was gone for a day or two as I went to NYC to celebrate my birthday with my ma and her side of the family (her husband, her husband’s daughter, her son and husband). I wish to blog here about our conversations about my dad, whom I did NOT see while I was in the city…. But I plan to do that on Friday.

Tonight I merely want to mention my well wishers. On Sunday, Evan personally wished me a happy one. Likewise an old friend saw me off to NYC with a beer in my belly and Firefly now in my DVD collection.
On Monday- the day of days, as mentioned I had a meal with my mom’s side of the family and got a couple presents from my step father( in the shadow of no towers by art speigleman and ego and hubris by the American Splendor guy). I also had several mailings from various websites saying ‘happy birthday’.
Today, Tuesday, I called my voice mail while in NYC and found messages from a causal friend, a co worker( whom I’m going to overlook the fact that I didn’t give her my phone number) and my older brother. My mother was surprised that my older brother didn’t call me at her house, but was more surprised that my dad didn’t call.

Now I didn’t tell my dad I was going to be in NYC, so theoretically, if called he’d do it at my home number… but no message from him or my younger brother. Now they’ve forgotten my birthdays in the past so I told my mother that it didn’t surprise me. Actually the most vexing was one year my father called me telling me that he was calling because quote my mom told me it was your birthday unquote, and then less then a month later he felt he needed to remind me about my younger brother’s b’day. I let him have it that year, pointing out that I remembered Pete’s (younger bro) b’day but it didn’t seem that either of them had remembered mine. Hmmm, I wonder who his favorite son is.
Right now it’s sort of enough that even with not talking to him and dissing his current wife, he gave me money to go to Amsterdam.
Yes, I’d like recognition/ a birthday card. Heck, I’d like him to thank me for the adult e-cards I send him every year for HIS birthday… but at this point I’d rather accept my dad for who he is (or not deal with him because of who he is) then expect him to behave the way I feel he should behave( like sending his son a birthday card).

Oh and to end on a positive note. Was happy that evan wished me a happy birthday on Monday on his blog. I just didn’t see it until I got home as I make it a point of not visiting anything that can lead back to this blog while I’m at my mom’s.